In Jennifer Lawrence’s words: “…there was an element of wanting to be liked that influenced my decision to close the deal without a real fight. I didn't want to seem "difficult" or "spoiled." At the time, that seemed like a fine idea, until I saw the payroll on the Internet and realized every man I was working with definitely didn't worry about being "difficult" or "spoiled."
“Leadership” can be interpreted in a variety of ways by different people and in different situations. Leading out of your comfort zone, and using a different style in interacting with others can be very effective. Here are a few tips on how to adopt a different approach:
- Start to ask different questions. It’s important to go beyond just asking someone what they do or where they work. As a leader, people’s values and hobbies can provide better insight to who they are and how you can better relate to them.
- Make a decision, and go do something different. This can be anything – changing a habit, talking to someone new, taking up a new hobby. It’s all about expanding what you do now to help you expand doors into new perspectives for the future.
- Observe your thoughts and observe the observer. When you think about something, introspect and try to understand your own thought process. Are these thoughts really your own values and what’s genuinely coming from you?
- Don’t feel like you need to be liked by everyone. Women have a tendency to apologize. Rather than saying I’m sorry, think of ways to replace those words to sound more confident and less apologetic. For example, instead of saying “I’m sorry I’m late”, try “Thank you for your patience and waiting for me”. For more tips, read this article on 5 things to say instead of “I’m sorry” - http://www.businessinsider.com/5-things-to-say-instead-of-sorry-2015-4
Each day, our professional lives require us to make decisions that impact other people and our organizations as a whole. By switching the energy to leading from the vision, you may lead differently. For instance, when presented with a situation, if I think about it as if I were CEO, the outcome may be completely different.
Also, check out Amy Cuddy’s TED talk on how our body language can have a huge impact: by exuding confidence in your body language, you can change how people perceive you, and people will recognize that you are a leader and respect you more!